Labial Massage Techniques – A guy’s guide

We understand the clitoris can be a confusing area. Much of the network of receptive nerves are hidden from view and spread far and wide whilst the labia themselves fold and ruche in a delicate display which can seem too dainty for touch. That said, sensitivity of the clitoris is an individual thing and it always pays to ask whether more or less pressure need be applied. A clitoral vibrator is invaluable during both sex and foreplay but mastering a few manual techniques will add variety to your sexual repertoire and alter the type of orgasm she experiences. Before we begin with a couple of tried and tested massage techniques remember one golden rule, with clitoral massage ‘Less is more’ and in most cases diving for the central spot with excess purpose will probably be more uncomfortable than pleasurable!

The wishbone 

You don’t have to touch the clitoris directly to benefit from its immense pleasure giving properties. Think of the shape of a wishbone and make the ‘V’ with your index and middle fingers. Slip those fingers either side of the labia. Once in position tug the fingers up and down which in turn pulls the clitoral nub under the tip of the hood (at the top of these two long lips). This is particularly good for women with a sensitive clitoral area that perhaps don’t like the central spot touched directly and also great for foreplay as prompts arousal, getting the genital area engorged and moist.

Open Palm

Another technique that uses the entire clitoral area for massage incorporates the palm of the hand. Rest the base of the palm at the top of the pubic bone where the pubic hair stops. Allow the palm to fall over the clitoral area with the fingertips touching the entrance to the vagina. Gently circle the hand over the entire area making sure that skin-to-skin contact is maintained. Ask her if she prefers the up and down or side to side motion to find out which gives her the most pleasure.

Rocking the boat

Although the clitoral tip is at the top central point of the extending labia it’s not always pleasurable to have the area massaged directly. The best way to approach clitoral massage is to use the inner fold of skin to massage over the central area and therefore allowing the sensitive nerve endings to be stimulated without making the sensation unbearable. Move the fold of skin over to the other side and back in a rocking motion massages the sensitive centre in the process and will easily build to orgasm or raise arousal for what’s to come

NB: If you are using a vibrator in this fashion you do not need to push the toy all the way to the other side and once building to the final climax holding the vibrator still and to the centre is enough to allow her to enjoy the full sensation when it arrives