Clit Stim Squeeze

Most women find that clitoral stimulation is the most effective way of achieving orgasm. If you want some variation in your masturbation routine take a look at our clitoral massage techniques and take some time to find your favourite route to an earth-shaking orgasm.

A favourite of ours is the Clit Stim Squeeze which as a masturbation technique involves a greater degree of movement to reach orgasm. Take a bullet vibe or slightly longer clitoral vibrator such as the discretion vibrator. Place the vibe between your legs against the outer length of the inner lips (basically the area you would focus on during usual clitoral massage). Close your legs and lie on your side for maximum movement. Squeeze against the vibrator whilst rocking your pelvis back and forth, squeezing your pelvic muscles as you would when building on orgasm. The rubbing against the vibrator will lead to climax and leave your hands free for nipple play too!

This squeezing technique can also be used directly after orgasm for a double whammy that usually leads to another climax in succession. The trick is to do it straight away whilst the sensitive pulsation remains in your clitoris.

You can also adopt this technique during the spoons position with your partner whereby penetration and clitoral massage can be enjoyed simultaneously.

Pumping the PC Muscles

Eat 5 fruit and veg a day, exercise 3 times a week, Drink 6 glasses of water a day, the last thing we need is another piece of advice and another weekly chore in a lifestyle regime. Why bother exercising the Pelvic Floor muscles at all, they can't be seen and who the hell is going to benefit from all that work? Well if there is one thing that will benefit your sex life and continue a satisfying level of sensation during penetration and orgasm into your later years its the kegel exercise.

The PC Muscles form a figure of eight shape with one loop around the vagina and the other around the anus. These muscles tend to weaken with age (as all muscles do) and after childbirth when a considerable amount of pressure has been experienced on your pelvic area.

Every woman would benefit from kegel exercise and you don't need to don a lycra ensemble with designer trainers to work out, you can do them anywhere without anybody noticing. Use Funfactory Smartballs or Lelo Luna Beads at home for pleasurable kegel exercise or incorporate your pelvic squeeze into your sexual experience by making the point to tighten your muscles around your partners penis, your dildo or vibrator.

Here are some quick and easy 'anytime' pelvic floor exercisers, do them on the tube, bus or whilst driving to work they will pay dividends:

• Locate your PC Muscles by tightening your muscles as you would if you were holding on to a wee or wind. Try to tighten the length of your under carriage from anus to tip of the clitoris.


• Do a series of quick squeezes by clenching hard and releasing to the count of 3


• Follow this pattern of pelvic squeeze for a repeat of 10, focusing on feeling the anal sphincter really tighten.


• Slow down the pattern for a series of 5 long inhale/exhale clenches in time with a long breath, control the squeeze in both directions.


• Remember to actually push the muscles out when releasing the squeeze as if bearing down.


• Repeat this series of exercises every day on the way into and home from work and your orgasms will be stronger and penetration feel more pleasurable.

My conversation with Mr R

I took a call from a gentleman the other day and we had a lengthy discussion about his sex life. The couple had been married for many years and Mrs R, his wife, had never had an orgasm during sex. Mr R was very keen to spice up the marriage and pleasure his wife in a way he felt he hadn't before. The ensuing effort had led to his purchase of sexy outfits (although she insisted in turning off the lights to emerge from the ensuite), a rabbit vibrator he had brought from us 4 months prior and a lubricant to use during sex. Mrs R hadn't enjoyed the rabbit vibrator although Mr R had loved using it on her, she felt the rotating shaft was unnatural and hadn't enjoyed the experience. Our conversation lasted for 1/2 an hour and at the end I really felt for Mr R, he loved and wanted his wife but felt he always seemed to miss the mark when it came to her sexual satisfaction.

He knew that she used sex toys alone as he found various women's toys in her drawer so why hadn't they succeeded in enjoying them together? It really only boils down to one thing; communication.
It seemed Mrs R had become accustomed to not having an orgasm with her husband and enjoyed a collection of vibrators when he left the house. It had become a habitual pattern of behaviour whereby they enjoyed the intimacy of sex but Mrs R only expected to experience the joy of orgasm during self pleasure. A sexy outfit is always top of the 'improve your sex life list' but in reality dressing up the outside isn't going to improve a sex life which needs working on from the inside. Opening up communication, letting go, trusting your partner, experimenting and demonstrating what it is that you find pleasurable are the list toppers.

'Spice up your sex life' its a women's mag cliche, but number one top of the list is not to light a few candles and rub in some massage oil but to TALK. I understand that this can be difficult, some people just aren't comfortable talking about their sexual preferences but little steps eventually take you a long way and sometimes grabbing a rabbit and donning suspenders just isn't going to break down a sexual routine built up over many years.

What did I suggest to Mr R? Well for practical advice, instead of a rabbit vibrator (he brought the thruster anyway!) I suggested a clitoral vibrator for his wife and gave him a few positions to adopt so that she could integrate her usual clitoral massage when they made love. We chose a cock ring to keep him harder to the longer sessions and a vibrating ring to use in the missionary position. I suggested he leave the sexy outfits until they were both comfortable with a new approach and that he ask her about the ways in which she pleasures herself with some direction on his technique.

A great sex life isn't just about the earth shattering orgasms but the intimacy and trust it can create which very quickly benefit all areas of your life. Enjoy!

Oh and good luck to Mr R, you have got to love the man for trying!