Low Libido?

It can be incredibly difficult in a relationship to synch your libidos. Lots of times the urge to have sex depends on stress levels, hormones, time of life and fitness levels. All too often one of the partnership feels horny whilst the other would rather grab a cuppa and catch up with their favourite soap on the sofa. Part of the success of a relationship is down to physical intimacy and sexual bonding so what should you do if you are feeling amorous when your partner isn’t?

During prolonged periods of lost libido it’s not unusual for one of the couple to turn to masturbation or self pleasure and this is fine as long as it’s not the only outlet for sexual pleasure and tension. If you do not feel up to a full sexual act its actually incredibly bonding to carry out the manual method of pleasure for your partner. It may lead to sex or it may not but the main point is that there is an element of sharing when it comes to the intimate act. Just because you are not feeling horny yourself it doesn’t have to mean that you don’t want your partner to enjoy an orgasm.

Using props such as a clitoral vibrator for her or a male masturbator for him can add an extra stimulus and take away from the routine nature of the job. Don’t be shy about experimenting with all types of sexual release; your partner will enjoy it all the more if you lend a hand to proceedings.

It might be that you both need extra stimulus to bring you around to the same timeline when it comes to sexual urges. Using erotic fiction or porn can be a fabulous way of getting you in the mood and thinking about sex more inevitably prompts more sex. Try plugging in your headphones on the train ride into work with some naughty fiction playing or indulge in some sexy music. Wear stockings when you would ordinarily throw on the tights and remember to spray a little perfume after your shower. Often it’s a culmination of small but significant things that help to make you feel sexy and it could do the trick in you both wanting an early night!  

PicoBong

No it’s not the latest craze in virtual pet or Japanese animation, PicoBong is a rather funky selection of high-end sex toys from designer Grand Daddy Lelo.

How are these luxury vibes different from the rest?

The PicoBong range has all the appeal of it’s Lelo cousins but with a funky fresh approach and presentation that has a youthful image and playful humour. 

The PicoBong range currently at The Boudoir comprises of IPO a finger vibrator, TANO a plug vibe, KOA a couples vibrating ring and MAHANA a double-ended vibrator for twice the pleasure.

The theme seems to be a very quiet motor inside a smooth silicone shaft, which resembles a hybrid bullet & egg vibe. The power from the bullet is amazing (so I’m told) and the formula is extended to various sex toy incarnations including something for couples, the g spot, self-pleasure and anal stimulation, these kind people think of everything.

Each PicoBong toy has 12 vibration patterns capable of multi speeds so there really is a function for everyone. Unlike many of the most recent lelo vibrators, PicoBong sex toys require a single AAA battery and are not re-chargeable.

The silicone used is FDA approved which means you are getting the very best in body safe material and each toy is waterproof up to a metre so bath time friendly if you are so inclined.

The controls are simple with just two integrated buttons for on/off and function control, which is a little refreshing amongst today’s high tech gadget toys.

Funky, fresh and innovative, PicoBong offers a refreshingly different choice in the luxury market.  

 

Sex & Sensemotion

I have one rule in the bedroom & that is no outside source of entertainment other than me. Unfortunately the lack of TV sadly results in balancing the lap top on the bedside table, surfing for free porn and initiating foreplay whilst trying to  pick up the wireless signal, despite this I still stick to my guns.
This came as something of a shock to my husband who had fantasies of watching early/late Grand Prix and playing PS3 on the duvet. Whilst my better half has never complained about me taking home my work (especially for trial and test purposes) the imminent arrival of the new Lelo Sensemotion range had him rather more excited than usual.

The trio of technologically advanced sex toys includes Oden (Cock Ring), Tiani (Couples vibrator) and Lyla (remote control vibrating egg). Firstly lets discuss the gadget lovers closest thing to gaming and sex - Sensemotion. All three Lelo sex toys have the Sensemotion control, which relys upon motion itself to alter the vibrator intensity. A sweeping hand motion, flick of the wrist or tilt of the hand will all increase or decrease the sensation felt by the user - smart sex toys indeed. The intuitive aspect of this technology is perfect for couples sex toys, allowing movement to play it's part with both toy and partner, a seamless provision of pleasure that doesn't get in the way of proceedings. Akin to the dual shock remote technology of the PS3, the sensemotion also allows the controller to experience the effect felt by the wearer by mirroring the toys vibration in the control         pad. Brings a whole new meaning to fun and games in the bedroom and has already set my partner on a quest to find the perfect combination of moves for the ultimate orgasm!
From my point of view Oden, Tiani and Lyla still have bags of designer sex toy desirability. The look and feel of the vibrators is divine, with a silky smooth silicone coat that only requires the smallest amount of lubricant to glide like cashmere over skin. The concept behind all three Lelo toys caters to couples although the Lyla and Oden's vibrator shaft is just as much fun alone as with company.
Again the Swede's manage to give us just what we want and this time bring a little gaming into the bedroom!

One (or two) for The Ladies

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Recipe for Cunning Cunnilingus

We have new sex toys and enhancers arriving each day at the moment and as the flow of adult delicacies passes under our noses we cannot help but think of new ways of using them. We have been adding  sumptuous products from both Shunga & Bswish Sex Toys and thought of the perfect pairing for a cunnilingus recipe that will be a worthy addition to your oral repertoire.

Ingredients: 1 Bswish Bnaughty Deluxe Bullet Vibrator
                  1 Shunga Aroma Flavoured Lubricant (Choose according to taste)
Method: Take the Bnaughty deluxe and simply place between your lovers legs ready for action. Ask your lady to lay on her back, legs apart and relax. Take a small amount of the Shunga Aroma and gently massage it into the clitoris (inhaling the mouth watering scent as you go).
Gently circle your tongue around the labia, adopting your usual method of cunnilingus whilst savouring the delicious flavoured lubricant. At intervals intersperse your tongue work with the Bnaughty bullet tracing the same lines with the toy before alternating with the clitoral massage that builds to orgasm. The feeling of soft warm tongue and penetrating vibrations from the bullet feels amazing and cuts down tongue work whilst raising the level of overall stimulation.

Whats so great about the ingredients? Shunga Aroma is one of the only flavoured lubricants that doesn't leave an after taste so using the smooth lube is pleasurable from start to finish. The Bswish Bnaughty Deluxe is both small enough for fabulous clitoral massage and powerful enough to please whether using it for masturbation, foreplay or during love making to bring on that climax.

I Love to Ride

There is something immensely satisfying about movement in masturbation. Is it anatomical or simply  more satisfying as an involved experience? Lying on your back (or front) and working a sex toy against your body does the trick but any movement involving pelvic thrusts just does the trick. We first encountered a purpose built rocking sex toy with the Rock ChickVibrator many moons ago, which felt like learning to ride a bike but was rewarding once an individual technique was mastered. Although the Rock Chick remains a firm favourite of ours, times change and with it the arrival of the dual stimulating rocking ride of the iRide hands free sex toy for those that like masturbation that works up a sweat.
iRide has the same dual stimulation concept but has worked this design into a saddle to ride. There is a 4" 'phallic' insertion on the top of the saddle with clitoral nub to the front for massage of the labia. Thinking back to pony riding days the basic riding techniques can be applied to this vibrating saddle. Rising trot works the internal shaft with a base sturdy enough to squeeze with the thighs, a brisk canter works the vibration into thighs, clitoris and vagina whilst a gentle walk tilts the pelvis along the saddle body taking advantage of the highest level of vibration.
Tilting the pelvis takes full advantage of the sensitivity of the clitoris and massaging the entire length against the ridge of iRide leaves no stimulating nerve ending untouched.
The hands free part of this toy also allows you to concentrate on other areas of your body or your partners. The next time you promise some oral pleasure to your partner hop on the iRide and it will make the experience so much more interesting!

iRide 

Win A Boudoir Easter Box

Spring is in the air (actually feels like summer today!) and we are looking forward to the Easter bank holiday weekend. In the spirit of Easter celebrations we have put together a Boudoir Easter Box full of indulgent goodies of the grown up girl variety.

Our Easter Box Contains: 1 x Cupids Mini Rabbit    1 x Loving Joy Wonder Egg   1 x Lovers Paintbox   1 x Intimate Organics Body Souffle in cocoa Bean & Goji Berry

TO WIN simply RT from our Twitter Page Until 5pm 21st April Good Luck!

Fun Factory Fever

Spring is in the air and we have been selecting our favourites from the new and exciting re-vamped range of Fun Factory sex toys in time for the Vernal Season. Its great to see that Fun Factory have extended their range to include some recognisable (and preferable) toys, such as Tango a dual stimulating vibe which appeals far more than Paul & Paulina did (sorry we took it off the shelves it looks like a over sized maggot). The improvements are not just in aesthetics but also in power and efficiency, poor old Mary Mermaid (now discontinued) didn't have a booster button in the base to propel us to dizzying heights of ecstasy faster than a formula 1 race car. The choice of function has expanded whilst noise level  and power and never been so impressive.
Another exciting area of development has been Fun Factory's dedication to male pleasure most notably in the production of both Duke and the Cobre Libre. Feedback on the Cobre has been quite incredible and has led to a never before penis envy in the office whilst Duke takes the concept of the prostate massager and injected a German engineering that makes it an indispensable accessory for the discerning male.
Fun Factory are still crafting battery charged sex toys but have also developed a Click 'N' Charge technology which offers the choice of some brilliant re-chargeable vibrators. On the face of it the concept seems a little complicated but its really easy to use and eliminates the need to dispose of a stock pile of batteries.
Simply put, when you first buy a Click N Charge Vibrator you need to purchase one of these:

The plug part of the charger is pushed into the socket as per normal whilst the magnetic disc is placed against the corresponding part of the toy. Leave to charge and then enjoy about 90 minutes of buzz before repeating the process. You only need one charger for all the Click 'N' Charge range so after spending the £4.99 there is no extra cost (unlike the numerous packs of Duracell on conventional toys).

We haven't yet finished our additions and look forward to adding the fabulous G4 vibes and Yooo before the Summer arrives.

    

The Question Of Sex Education

I have worked at The Boudoir for 4 years and have listened to many women talk about how they struggle to enjoy orgasm. At the same time over the past couple of years my 14 year old daughter has been attending sex education at school (sorry PHSE). Why are women so good at faking orgasm? Because sex education from the age of 12 teaches us all the methods of procreation without explaining about how to enjoy sex as recreation. Only with sexual experience do many women realise that although the text book motions are gone through an orgasm can be a long time coming if it ever graces us with its arrival at all. Biology may form an important part of sex education, but considering the number of times you actually try for a baby (in some cases never) and how often you enjoy sex as a pleasurable pursuit wouldn’t it be prudent to really explain to girls how to enjoy their body. Confidence in your body engenders a self-knowledge and self-respect that can only be positive to females, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Never once is a girl shown in an educational environment which part of her body needs attention for orgasm and instead the quality of information received is dependant on how lucky you are in the parental communication or sensible friend stakes.  

What a con! Mrs Lockyear never mentioned the clitoris in year 2 when she was showing us how to put a condom on a banana.

My best friend showed me her clitoris under a drama box when she was 13 and told me she used a plethora of apparatus to stimulate it. She wanted me to ask my mum if it was ok, which I did and luckily she told us it was healthy to enjoy your own body but be careful with the apparatus – good old mum!    

There seems to be two types of sex education, the first anatomical/biological version that ensures the proliferation of the planet (as we are so desperately in need of more people) and the second experiential lessons you learn (good ones if you are lucky) about how to enjoy your body alone or with a partner.

It may not be high on the agenda at the moment but wouldn’t we benefit from a re-think on the sex education front? 

My Valentine

I was rushing into work this morning and bumped into an acquaintance of mine who insisted in stopping for a chat. Conversation rolled around to Valentines day and she said that after 28 years of marriage her husband bought her two dozen red roses. He had quite blatantly got it wrong! This lady has no idea I work with sex toys which was even more amusing considering she told me that for weeks she had been dropping hints that she desired a vibrator. Adamant that she had even given him direction on the type of vibrator she wanted, the blooms when they arrived, were in fact something of a disappointment.      
Often the pressure of Valentine can make a potentially positive event fall flat on its face. The build up, pressure to perform, choosing the right gift, communicating the correct sentiment or longing to make the day or night the best the other person has experienced can lead to anxiety rather than the revelry you had envisaged.
This year I asked my husband for nothing, in fact I made it quite clear that I didn't even want a card.
Why?
If in the morning he leaves the house before I'm awake he leaves me tea in a cup with sugar, spoon and loving note. If he pops out for milk or the papers there are times he comes home with hand tied flowers. If I look tired he makes the effort to take over my tasks and cooks dinner more times to mention. These things are given to me 52 weeks of the year with no pressure or burden and mean more than an annual obligation to proffer some chocolates or over priced flowers. When it comes to sex the build up can often leave the event flatter than your attempt at Delia's Valentine Souffle. Over indulgence can leave you lethargic or reaching for the Rennie's rather than the erotic rub. The best sex I have ever had came from an unexpected spark of lust derived from a kiss, look or sweep of the hand across the thigh.
Tonight I am making some special time with my partner outside of the normal routine but in a relaxed way with a few naughty accessories of my choosing. No big gestures or fantastic display of opulence just an intimate evening that nods its head to the interest we have in pleasing each other. Whatever you are doing tonight remember to relax and Enjoy x