The Question Of Sex Education

I have worked at The Boudoir for 4 years and have listened to many women talk about how they struggle to enjoy orgasm. At the same time over the past couple of years my 14 year old daughter has been attending sex education at school (sorry PHSE). Why are women so good at faking orgasm? Because sex education from the age of 12 teaches us all the methods of procreation without explaining about how to enjoy sex as recreation. Only with sexual experience do many women realise that although the text book motions are gone through an orgasm can be a long time coming if it ever graces us with its arrival at all. Biology may form an important part of sex education, but considering the number of times you actually try for a baby (in some cases never) and how often you enjoy sex as a pleasurable pursuit wouldn’t it be prudent to really explain to girls how to enjoy their body. Confidence in your body engenders a self-knowledge and self-respect that can only be positive to females, especially when it comes to the opposite sex. Never once is a girl shown in an educational environment which part of her body needs attention for orgasm and instead the quality of information received is dependant on how lucky you are in the parental communication or sensible friend stakes.  

What a con! Mrs Lockyear never mentioned the clitoris in year 2 when she was showing us how to put a condom on a banana.

My best friend showed me her clitoris under a drama box when she was 13 and told me she used a plethora of apparatus to stimulate it. She wanted me to ask my mum if it was ok, which I did and luckily she told us it was healthy to enjoy your own body but be careful with the apparatus – good old mum!    

There seems to be two types of sex education, the first anatomical/biological version that ensures the proliferation of the planet (as we are so desperately in need of more people) and the second experiential lessons you learn (good ones if you are lucky) about how to enjoy your body alone or with a partner.

It may not be high on the agenda at the moment but wouldn’t we benefit from a re-think on the sex education front? 

Bend Over Boyfriend

We have witnessed the steady rise in popularity of strap on's that are donned by women for use on their man. Although you ladies are obviously getting off on taking the male lead in the bedroom a strap on does not physically stimulate you whilst in motion.

Until that is the introduction of the Bend Over Boyfriend. It means just that, a strapless strap on designed to give female pleasure whilst pleasuring their partner simultaneously.

The dual ended strap on has a bulbous end for vaginal insertion with a soft shaft for male penetration.

We think its going to be a best seller but remember girls that the better shape the kegel muscle is in the firmer control you have over bent over boyfriend.

Increased Sexual Fun For Couples

Fancy that an alternative to viagra with no side effects which can be used by both men & women.

Viagel is a product that claims to be just that & its new couples sachet caters for both partners looking to up the libido stakes!

Users simply rub the gel onto the pubic area to experience increased arousal, sensitivity, stronger, longer orgasms & a faster return of sexual appetite.

We have seen the Viagel couples sachets take the couples sex toys section by storm with lots of recommendations from men & women alike.

As its not a pill to swallow smaller doses are absorbed meaning no side effects of Viagra, also the absorption in the skin via a trans dermal delivery gives results within minutes. The science part of Viagel entails two groups of ingredients. The first signals dilation & the second helps the widening of blood capillaries & blood flow. Viagel has been approved by the MRHA & TSA & is the perfect couples companion.

Sex toys & relationships

Let's face it; most women have enjoyed a relationship with a Rampant Rabbit, a Dildo or a Vibrator at some point in their sex lives. For some of us it's just an other experience to tick off the "Things to do before I'm 30" list. For others it's a satisfying self indulging no holds barred adventure with an array of fallacies none of which suffer with the Green Eyed Monster jealousy of mere mortals.
So if we enjoy our sex toys on our own should we introduce them to our human partners or should we keep quiet about it as we would about a past lover or an illicit affair? It would seem that the answer depends on your partner's outlook on sex toys. The general view of the traditional male is that plastic imitations of the reel thing are to be frowned upon and have no place in the home over which he presides! The 21st century man broader in his views on the modern world appears to take the view that variety is the spice of life and is less likely to be intimidated by a mechanical bedroom appliance which performs in ways his penis can't.Of course the ramifications of analysing sex toys and relationships are much further reaching than just man Vs machine, male gay relationships as a for instance tend to have a very liberal use of not just sex toys but also bondage items S&M and a variety of sex games. Lesbian relationships also tend to have user friendly attitude but are more personal and intimate about using them.Sex toys are used by women in every walk of life, mothers, students, legal and medical professionals, teachers, social workers, entertainers...The list goes on and with the exception of perhaps nuns all will probably embark on relationship with an other human being at some point. By this time your battery powered friend is much more than a penis substitute, it's an instrument with which you have explored the most intimate parts of your body and your psyche so why would you give it up for some body who could take years to discover those same erogenous nooks and crannies you've toiled so intensely to uncover?Use discretion! A male acquaintance was horrified when his new girlfriend produced a clitoral vibrator during their first sexual encounter together and asked "You don't mind if I use this?" He felt she deemed him not to be up for the job and never saw her again.Relationships are delicate intangible entities even without sex so with this addition they become even more so. The key as with most personal information about your self is not to give away too much too soon. Gauge your partner's sense of adventure in the sex department, if their idea of "experimenting" is doggy style preceded by some dutch courage then it's probably advisable to advance with caution and take things slowly.A good way to introduce your new partner to your love of sex toys is to suggest browsing the web for massage lotions or stimulant balms, if you get a positive reaction then moving onto the Vibrator section comes more natural and choosing something together is preferable to producing your own trusted companion and announcing "Here's one I prepared earlier"This technique is also a good ice breaker if you’re in a longer standing relationship and wish to spice up your sex life a little. Try browsing our own couples section to get an idea of what's available for those who want to keep up the enjoyment of their sex lives together.In conclusion. If all else fails there is no shortage of discreet Vibrators which can be easily carried around in your hand bag or pocket without the danger of being rumbled.In today's society if you're a single modern woman (age is irrelevant) who's time is so consumed by career, kids or social life that any non plutonic relationship would be more troublesome than orgasmic then you're probably expected to have a vibrator or two in your bed side table without having to make excuses for their existence, after all men have been putting their penises in blow up dolls for years.