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Clit Stim Squeeze

Most women find that clitoral stimulation is the most effective way of achieving orgasm. If you want some variation in your masturbation routine take a look at our clitoral massage techniques and take some time to find your favourite route to an earth-shaking orgasm.

A favourite of ours is the Clit Stim Squeeze which as a masturbation technique involves a greater degree of movement to reach orgasm. Take a bullet vibe or slightly longer clitoral vibrator such as the discretion vibrator. Place the vibe between your legs against the outer length of the inner lips (basically the area you would focus on during usual clitoral massage). Close your legs and lie on your side for maximum movement. Squeeze against the vibrator whilst rocking your pelvis back and forth, squeezing your pelvic muscles as you would when building on orgasm. The rubbing against the vibrator will lead to climax and leave your hands free for nipple play too!

This squeezing technique can also be used directly after orgasm for a double whammy that usually leads to another climax in succession. The trick is to do it straight away whilst the sensitive pulsation remains in your clitoris.

You can also adopt this technique during the spoons position with your partner whereby penetration and clitoral massage can be enjoyed simultaneously.

Clitoral Play

When beginning with clitoral play its a good idea to apply a sex lubricant to the entire vulva including the clitoris, inner labia and outer labia. If you prefer insert a finger into your vagina and transfer your natural lubrication instead.

Get familiar with your clitoris and discover the most pleasurable parts to concentrate the stimulation. Use a finger tip to slowly rub the sides of your clitoris familiarising yourself with its size, shape and sensitive zones.

Run your finger or clitoral vibrator along the entire length, stimulating the inner clitoral and inner labia nerve endings. You will now begin to feel a plumpness in your lips and any further play should result in a heightened sensitivity.

When using a clit stim or your finger contract your pelvic muscles as you feel the pleasant sensations build up. Continue to 'pump' your pelvic muscles as the pleasure rises as it increases lubrication, assists the arrival of orgasm and intensifies the climax when it happens.
Try to stimulate the clitoris to the point of its 'erection' whereby it pops out from under the hood and can be clearly seen. Increase your speed on this area now in order to build towards climax.Direct pressure to this area is often too much for most women and using the inner lips to rub over the clit creates a buffer, enabling only the pleasant feelings from this sensitive area.
Breathing is an important part of masturbation and deeper breaths will carry more oxygen around the body aiding blood flow and making you feel more relaxed. Gently move your hips it can help to induce orgasm and makes the pelvic squeeze easier to maintain.

You may want to increase your massaging speed as orgasm approaches or if using a vibrator increase the vibration level in the latter stages of masturbation. Hold the pelvic muscles as you feel orgasm approaching and remember to take a big breath as your climax begins, it serves to send the pleasure right to the tips of your toes and extends the orgasmic experience.

Does Good Sex Begin in your 30's?

We can all remember the initial sexual encounters we had, blind fumblings, awkward sex & no real knowledge yet of how to please yourself or others.

I may have been fitter, firmer & partaking in more recreational sex in my twenties but in retrospect was I having more fun?

The answer has to be no, so why am I finding sex in my thirties more satisfying than at any other time?

Yes our bodies are not what they used to be but they are relatively fit & firm & strangely we feel more confident about our bits. Our erogenous zones seem more responsive but then we know the right buttons to press. A mixture of long & short term sexual relationships has given us a knowledge & experience to understand what we want in bed. We have experience of pleasing ourselves & are not afraid to use sex toys alone or in relationships. Overall we know that faking orgasms & emulating the feigned porn star levels of sexual enjoyment in the bedroom aren't what makes for a satisfying sexual experience.

More Mrs Robinson than Bridget Jones, a thirty something woman knows exactly what she wants & boy do we know how to get it!

Orgasm Facts

Women are most likely to orgasm if they have sex on the 14th day of their cycle - Risk & reward!

The average female orgasm lasts for 5-8 seconds

The average male orgasm lasts for 3-5 seconds - Hey periods, hormones, childbirth we have got to have some perks!

When you begin to climax take a deep breath, it almost carries the orgasm to all parts of your body & intensifies your pleasure.

Sex during your period can often lead to better orgasms as the vagina is swollen & more lubricated - Messy but fun & I'm sure your partner won't object to trying it out.

According to sex researchers there is such a thing as an Extended Massive Orgasm. Apparently this lasts for about one hour but needs loads of foreplay (about three hours) & extensive rubbing - I'm feeling numb in my nethers already!

Pjur Stimulation Spray

We have always loved stimulation sprays & the increased sensitivity they provide for the clitoris. A fabulous treat once or twice a week is to spray a squirt of arousal spray to your clitoral area before massaging with your favourite sex toy. Pjur have launched My Spray, a stimulation spray to send tingles to your genitals like never before. Pjur recommend trying the product out on the inside of your cheek where it will quickly fizz like the bubbles from Champagne.

My Spray encourages blood flow to your clitoris & provides a tingle to increase sensitivity & improve your orgasm. Its also great for a quickie as it brings orgasm on much quicker than usual.

Bigger Better Orgasms

The new year is a perfect time for cutting out the naughty treats, hauling yourself to the gym & toning the body beautiful but did you know that an improved diet & regular exercise actually improves your orgasm too. In The Boudoir's guide to better orgasms we learn that the physical & mental benefits to improved health are a sheet clenching climax like never before.

What more motivation could you need to restart the fitness regime after too many mince pies this christmas!